Beauty Perseveres

As we come to the end of Autism Awareness month 2017, I would like to thank the contributors to our Autism Moms and Dads Blog Interview Series for sharing a bit about their lives in the world of Autism.  It has been particularly interesting to get the Dad’s perspective this year in addition to the Moms. I have also enjoyed the opportunity to re-connect with both local and national friends and make some new FIN friends along the way. Many thanks to those that interviewed: David Rizzo, dad to Danielle from New Jersey, Ruth and Rick Robins, parents of Tripp in Virginia, Tim Craig, dad to Clinton, from New Jersey, Janet Shouse, mom to Evan Shouse from Tennessee and Michael Hoggatt, dad to Summer from California. You are all an inspiration to me and it was a pleasure to “meet” you and your children through these interviews. 

Blessings to all those out there that love and care for people affected by autism. You are doing a great job!-K. Jackson

Beauty Perseveres

As I sat on my front porch, on a lovely late-April morning, a sweet little flower caught my eye. Not that flowers are unusual in the spring time, especially in Virginia, but this one seemed to be growing right through our tiled front porch! And the words “beauty perseveres” invaded my mind.

The writer in me jumped at the chance to use this unusual bloom as a symbol of the strong, determined and undefeatable autism moms, dads and children that I have met on my own parenting journey. Persons who have autism and parents and caregivers who, despite challenging behaviors, multiple medical needs, serious communication and sensory challenges and more, do persevere. They persevere even when it seems impossible to do so. They persevere through the tiled foundations of our society’s misunderstanding of autism, through uniformed attitudes and the unrelenting hyper-vigilance required of some moms and dads of children with autism. They persevere because they love their children.

Recently, our family has faced quite a few challenges; from our daughter’s six day hospitalization in the Intensive Care Unit of our local Children’s hospital to last summer, when we were dealing with some extremely challenging behaviors related to an anxiety disorder, (and let’s not forget the recent aggravating car accident that required a new vehicle), it has been a whirlwind. Yet through God’s grace and a generous dose of His strength, we have persevered and come out on the other side, seeing the beauty in our daughter, in our lives and in our amazing God.

“…And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we rejoice in our suffering, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance character and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts…” Romans 5:2-5

Most Christians, when presented with the term, “perseverance” would go right to the above scripture in Romans. “Suffering produces perseverance” we are taught. But the most important part of these verses to me is not that we suffer (because everyone suffers, whether or not they are affected by any kind of disability) but that through suffering we eventually get to hope.  This is the beauty I see out of our perseverance; a hope that sustains, that draws others to God and helps us appreciate the gifts that our beautiful children with autism bring into our lives.

Just as that flower grows through the seemingly impossible place on my front porch, I pray that all of those affected by autism persevere through the difficult challenges that ASD can sometimes bring and experience the beauty and hope of God’s love for us all.

Thanks be to God.